Leadership’s First Commandment: Know Thyself. – Harvard Business Review
I believe and practice a wholistic life approach.
A healthy mind, body, and soul – which, contrary to popular belief, includes our emotions!
I think everyone at some point in their life has been told that emotions are BADDDD !! OFF LIMITS !! NOT COOL !!!
Especially as women, our emotions are seen as an act of weakness.
Now that I think about it, men are as equally told that their emotions are bad.
I know this because I have five brothers, and growing up, I constantly heard their friends telling them to “suck it up” or “stop acting like a baby” whenever they showed any signs of feeling upset.
So to the guys, anything seen as “sensitive” is unacceptable.
Why all the stigma around emotions?
Are emotions bad?
Are some emotions bad?
Are ANY emotions bad?
This year, I felt a huge pull in my heart to understand and embrace my physical and mental makeup.
To indeed “Know Thyself”.
How can we understand and embrace ourselves without the knowledge of how it all works?
So I picked up these two books and figured it would be a good place to start.
I would like to share a little about each book and hopefully spark your interest to read them further!
1. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves
It is said the E.I. (Emotional Intelligence) is now more valuable to the workplace than I.Q.
No doubt emotional intelligene is more rare than book smarts, but my experience says it is actually more important in making of a leader. You just can’t ignore it. – Jack Welch
In this book, you will learn all the different functions of emotions – personally and socially.
I think this is an essential place to start if you are wanting to learn more about emotions because this book gives you a redeemable code to take their Emotions Test which will evaluate your emotional health and give you practical advice on how to achieve greater emotional levels!
The best part is, once you know where you’re at, you have a starting point to reference as you learn more about yourself.
Please, don’t feel discouraged if you score low on the test.
I have come to realize that people who score low are not bad, emotionally unstable people.
Most people who score low do so because they don’t value their well-being as high as they value other people’s.
Which is such a noble attribute!
But unfortunately, when you don’t value your emotional health, it suffers and you develop unhealthy life habits.
Invest in yourself and take this test and buy this book! It’s so helpful!
It’s so helpful!
2. Emotional Agility by Susan David, PhD
Susan David has her doctrine in EMOTIONS.
I’m not kidding, that is her official field of study.
OH ANNNND she is on staff at Harvard University.
If there is anyone qualified to talk about the genetic processes and patterns of our emotions, it is her.
It doesn’t hurt that she’s funny and relatable and her book is easy to read.
(If you haven’t noticed, I am kinda fangirling over here.)
Check her out for yourself on this podcast with Rob Bell:
This book was so detailed and so depth on the humanity of emotions.
I learned more about myself in the first few chapters than I have in years.
But you need to know, this book will challenge you.
Susan really faces head-on cultural ideas and what we have been taught to “think”.
She teaches on the wholeness of emotions and how to embrace each of them, and why it is vital to a happy, successful life.
If you get this book, you have to go into it with an open mind.
You have to put aside everything you’ve been taught and just allow for new and fresh perspectives.
(Aren’t those the best books though? The ones that push you to be a better learner?)
Plus, Susan David has a FREE test that you can take and it only takes five minutes or so.
Here’s the link to it:
You won’t regret it.
I would love to know any emotional health-related books/resources that you know of!
Please, feel free to comment below with your suggestions.
Life is so good.
It’s hard, it’s good, it’s fun, it’s messy, but mostly, it’s beautiful.
Embracing it all with open arms.